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I found out from this post that LJ has removed the secure https login, leaving only the insecure http login

So all LJ passwords have likely been or will be harvested for hacking.

GOD DAMN IT TO HELL.

I'm off to DW. My LJ updates will be READ ONLY x-posts from DW. Do not comment here any longer, please -- you won't get a reply!

ETA: As I understand it from LJ's own OpenID login FAQ, one can use OpenID on LJ because using an OpenID login/password completely bypasses. The relevent section says:

Identity accounts use a trust relationship between LiveJournal and the identity service to allow you to comment on LiveJournal using an identity others will recognize without having to create a standard LiveJournal account. LiveJournal does not gain access to your password for the identity service and the identity service does not gain access to your LiveJournal password if you have one.

So, for those comms that don't have a backup/sister comm on DW, I'm going to use my OpenID login to LJ.

If your OpenID is through LiveJournal, your password goes through Livejournal -- through the less secure http standard, which is easy to hack for password theft.

If your OpenID is through another OpenID identity service -- such as Google/Gmail -- your password does not go through Livejournal, it goes to your OpenID identity service, which should use https (Google/Gmail does).


I hope that clarifies somewhat... I know it is confusing!

This also means I have to use Gmail Circles, which I kind of loathe (and don't use). But whatever... at least it's more secure.
Not that the world was beating down my door to read my mostly-inactive LJ... but sadly, the spammers were. ETA: all comments are now screened, but my LJ is no longer Friends-locked.

I'm not that active online due to relapsing repetitive strain injuries (tendinitis) from years of non-ergonomic computer work, way before I became an RN. When I first became a nurse, we were still charting on paper. But now we use computers all day at work for patient charting... so it's making my tendinitis flare-up. Badly.

Hospital policy against nurses' use of personal cell phones except on breaks/lunch means I can't use my cell-phone at work (yet it never seems to apply to residents, interns, fellows or doctors, which is pretty bullshit if you ask me). Oh well, I can never get a signal in the old-ass buildings anyway. And since we don't get assigned individual computers, and all our work on them is monitored, and pretty much everything on AO3, LJ and DW is NSFW... well, my only time for fannish stuff is evenings, at home, after my work day has aggravated the tendinitis. /o\

But if you see something here you like and/or it looks like we've got stuff in common (like fic! and favorite shows!), friend away!

Harley Quinn/Suicide Squad

So I finally watched Suicide Squad on my HBO-only cable& internet subscription.

So...
Harley Quinn's deepest desire is... SPOILERSCollapse )

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I posted some mostly low wordage fics to AO3 in March. Though completed/posted in March, they were not necessarily written this month; some were in the works for a while. I'm indebted to Tarlan for beta-ing the Moonlight fics and to Ride_4ever for both beta-ing the Longmire fics and coming up with the ficlet series title.

We also dedicated the Longmire ficlets to Zen because Zen turned Ride on to Longmire, and Ride turned me onto Longmire -- so my Longmire fics truly would not exist without Zen, and I would've missed all the wonderful older_not_dead slash on Longmire.

I chose not to use archive warnings on the Longmire teen slash. Stories are tagged/rated appropriately. here be ficletsCollapse )



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meaning of "bromance": culture-specific?

So yesterday on my break, an African-American co-worker asked my opinion on something. She asked what I thought "bromance" meant.

I told her as far as I knew it was from reviews of the first Hangover movie, and it means 'male besties.' (I later found out I am wrong; it actually dates back to the 1990s, according to Wikipedia.) I also said it has been applied to things like Brokeback Mountain (I had read that in more than a few articles about BBM, though I felt that was an incorrect usage; the point of "bromance" is that it's nonsexual).

She explained that her 12th grade son's teacher described him, in front of his entire class, as being in a 'bromance' with his best friend. This led to all his classmates teasing him relentlessly about being gay ('you know, in our culture, that's not acceptable,' she told me), until one kid took it too far, which culminated in a fistfight with her son.

The fistfight unfortunately occurred at a time when some inspection of the school was happening, and the inspectors observed it, which reflected badly on the school. Now the school wants to suspend and possibly expel him.

She mentioned her son is on the honor roll and she thinks this is really unfair, given that it was the teacher's comment that started the whole thing. He is getting harassed on social media too, she added. She said she tried talking to the principal, who blew her off, saying her son shouldn't have taken it the way he did (and didn't address the fact that the other kids also took it that way. The principal said two of the male teachers in the school have also been described as in a "bromance" and didn't take offense. She asked me what I thought, what she could do.

I asked her [which was my immediate first guess]: Was it a white teacher who said it?
She said, Yes.

I said, Well, that would explain why this all happened. Try to explain to them that it means a different thing in white culture than in black culture, and due to the cultural differences, this teacher's statement had a negative social impact for your son, to the point that he is being teased and harassed constantly about it. And it sounds like the school is retaliating for your son's fight happening at the same time as the inspection, making the school look bad. If it had not happened at that time, would they be this harsh? She said she didn't know, but she though not.

I said I know teens take stuff to heart and are really sensitive, and combined with the cultural difference in the meaning, it's clear all his classmates took it the same way he did, which she should bring to the attention of the people she has to talk to. In other words, it's NOT just her son who interpreted "bromance"="gay", but his peers do, too.

We both lamented how stubborn and sensitive teens are, and she worried out loud that this would derail the progress he's made (it's only his 2nd year at this school - they moved into district last year).

She said she would try using the cultural difference angle in her last resort to try to avoid her son getting suspended or expelled: talking to a board member.

I personally think it was kind of inappropriate for the teacher to use the term "bromance" anyway because of the possible connotations it could have, in any culture. However, I'm sure she didn't mean it in a negative way. But it's not just what you say but how it comes across, and maybe it was culturally insensitive of the teacher, though I have to say, I was unaware that African-Americans interpret "bromance" to mean "gay" until this conversation. But I can see why people from any culture might perceive it that way -- it's got the word "romance" in it.

I'm fully aware if you said it to most white adult males they would likely not be bothered. However, I wonder if teenaged white boys would feel differently and interpret it as "gay," too.

Adolescence is such a terrible time of caring so much what other people think of you, first and foremost your peers.

But I'm wondering what other people think. Does "bromance" have a culture-bound meaning/interpretation? or an age-related meaning/interpretation?

What do you think?

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I should've gone to bed like half an hour ago. I have to be at work at 6:30am. But I thought I'd catch Elementary.

Which continues to disappoint. I haven't even been keeping up with it this season. I watched the premiere of S5 and then it was catch as catch can -- if I caught it, I watched it; if not, oh well.

The introduction of yet another sidekick this season was pretty meh; it's become a show formula now. Whatevs. (I was glad to see Nelsan Ellis as Shinwell because I hadn't seen him since True Blood. Crossover with Lucifer so he can be together again with Kevin Alejandro/Det. Douchebag (as Lucifer calls him)? Heh, I haven't even looked for that fic, but I bet it exists!)

ANYHOO... my disappointment tonight boils down to the inevitable biological destiny writers can't seem to help imposing on the most kickass female characters.

(So help me deity/ies, if they do that to Jessica Jones, I WILL FUCKING SCREAM AND THROW THINGS)

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A friend sent me the link to this fascinating article ("Even good bots fight" on PLoS One) on bot behavior from Oxford researchers. I had no idea how embedded online bot activity is. The sheer volume of their activity is almost frightening: responsible for some 24% of Tweets in 2009; 54% of online ad campaigns in 2012 and 2013 were viewed by bots (which I'm sure advertisers didn't take into account, lol).

From the intro to the PLoS article:
"...bots have been responsible for an increasingly larger proportion of activities on the Web. For example, one study found that 25% of all messages on Yahoo! chat over a period of three months in 2007 were sent by spam bots [9]. Another study discovered that 32% of all tweets made by the most active Twitter users in 2009 were generated by bots [10], meaning that bots were responsible for an estimated 24% of all tweets [11]. Further, researchers estimated that bots comprise between 4% and 7% of the avatars on the virtual world Second Life in 2009 [12].

A media analytics company found that 54% of the online ads shown in thousands of ad campaigns in 2012 and 2013 were viewed by bots, rather than humans [13]. According to an online security company, bots accounted for 48.5% of website visits in 2015 [14]. Also in 2015, 100,000 accounts on the multi-player online game World of Warcraft (about 1% of all accounts) were banned for using bots [15]. And in the same year, a database leak revealed that more than 70,000 “female” bots sent more than 20 million messages on the cheater dating site Ashley Madison [16]. "

And you thought all they did was spam you with Viagra, foreign pharmacy, and upfront-fee phishing scams!
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So in the last 12 years when a ton of shit happened to me IRL (mostly repetitive strain injury-related, then a terrible combination of aging/sick parent related with job loss/layoff with returning to school/switching fields/careers), I fell of the Internet and out of fandom stuff for much of that time. I started to fall off around 2003-2004 due to severe bilateral tendinitis, and my absence was probably longest/participation was lowest from 2005 to around 2010 or 2011.

explanation of how I didn't know about terms like cis and non-binary and ace until I returned to online fandom and encountered these terms on Tumblr, with some history of my fannishness and love of slash and how the latter brought me into the former more than a couple decades agoCollapse )

But what do we call ourselves? Do we have a name outside fandom, in the larger world, or in academia or gender studies? Do women who love slash have a term specific just to the love of slash? (Was there ever an archaic term for this, like from centuries ago? because that would be so cool... though I doubt that women of yore were able to be "out"/open about how they felt about seeing two dudes together, at least not if they found it super-sexy and squee-worthy.)

If there is a term for "women who enjoy contemplating/imagining two men being romantically &/or sexually involved with each other," is that terminology dependent on how we identify sexuality-wise? (given that there seem to be as many LGBTQ women who dig slash as there are vanilla het chicks, possibly more, that seems unlikely)

Is liking slash it's own thing, separate and apart from gender and sexuality? (Are there male slash fen? who aren't LGBTQ? IDEK -- I truly don't. Would this term -- if one other than "slash fan/fen" exists -- apply to those guys as well as us females, or would any such terms distinguish between the genders of the slash-admirers?

Maybe cis and non-binary and ace are terminology formed within that particular confluence of university studies and fandom (that's certainly where I was and what I was doing when I got into fandom).

But "slash" was a term before people were able to get slash stories through email lists or off the 'net. (I am familiar with the history of the term "slash" and origins in fandoms like original ST or MUNCLE.)

Yaoi (as a term) became popular in the late 90s, but that more describes the genre itself, than us women who love it. (And I can't say I personally relate much to yaoi for the simple fact that 99.9 times out of 100, I am not into boy/boy or tween/tween m/m... For me personally, at least one of the "m"s in "m/m" has to be an actual adult man -- YMMV -- Plus I'm not a manga/anime fan, unless you count a crush on Racer X when I was about 6 years old... I totally ditched Speed Racer for Racer X *g*!).

While such a term might be specifically about fans who like to contemplate m/m romance/sex, I would think it Could not be exclusively about watching/contemplating m/m couples being romantic &/or having sex -- because so much slashfic in so many different fandoms is PG rated with no sex at all, or primarily portrays the m/m relationship as deep partnership/friendship expanding into the realm of more than platonic love, yet less than explicitly sexual.

So... It's an interesting question, and I really don't know the answer. This isn't the first time I've pondered this in the last several months... it's just that I finally bothered to post the question.

I suppose I am fine with the term "slash fan" -- I just wondered if there was another term.

(I do object somewhat to the term "slasher" even though it is most expedient, but only because of the potentially violent connotations of "slashing" and "slashers.")

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So I ficced some more in January... I'm trying to hang on to that momentum.

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(Not Quite) Roughing It (on AO3)
Fandoms: Longmire (TV)

Slash - Walt Longmire/Henry Standing Bear
Characters - Walt Longmire, Henry Standing Bear, The Ferg (Longmire), Victoria "Vic" Moretti,
Tags - Affection, Nature, Camping

Teen And Up Audiences, No Warnings Apply

Summary: They stare into the fire, tucked snugly against each other despite layers and jackets. Their arms tighten around each other. Henry looks up at the inky, moonless sky, millions of bright stars hemmed in only by the dark silhouettes of the tree tops around them and the mountains beyond.

Words: 2,549

(Not Quite) Roughing It (on AO3)
Fandoms: Longmire (TV)

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A Suitable Alternative by verushka70
Fandoms: due South
Slash - Benton Fraser/Ray Kowalski
Characters - Diefenbaker, Benton Fraser, Ray Kowalski
Alternate Universe - Vampire, Community: ds_snippets | dsc6dsnippets

Explicit, No Warnings Apply

Summary: “Take it.” Ray shoves his wrist higher under Fraser’s nose, the scent of his blood enticing. “Your eyes -- you're fanged out –- drink!”

Words: 298

A Suitable Alternative (on AO3)

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Finally, Goran Višnjić: So I've been watching Timeless... and, wow, guh, hot older 40 man. Like, Tyler Hoechlin-ish (almost complete with the eyes, though they don't light his eyes properly to highlight their strange color), but almost 20 yrs older. HOT. I'll have to go back and watch all the ER eps I never saw him in because after I became an RN I stopped watching all medical shows because everything is so medically inaccurate 99% of the time and MDs are continually shown doing stuff they never do which is almost always done by RNs (like administering chemo, drawing blood, starting IVs, chest compressions, giving resuscitation meds... I could go on... sure, the doctor orders the meds or whatnot and intubates the patient for resuscitation, but RNs will keep you alive until he/she gets you intubated).

But supposedly ER had an RN consultant for accuracy. So I might give it a shot now. Because Goran is muy caliente. I think the first thing I saw Goran in was Practical Magic with Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman, but even though he was hot in that, he was also violent and creepy. Maybe I should've watched more ER -- it had some critical
acclaim, iirc -- but I was too busy watching ST:TNG, X-Files, and BTVS (not to mention Forever Knight and due South in the 90s), lol.

Prime-time medical soap opera wasn't on my radar... if it's not scifi or supernatural, I gravitate to cop shows, it seems -- or vampire cop shows, lol, since slightly more than a decade after Forever Knight was cancelled, Moonlight came along with Jason Dohring and Alex O'Loughlin both playing vampires. Ironically, Moonlight was the first thing I saw
Abigail Spencer in, and now she is a lead character on Timeless, which is the show that has rekindled my lust for Goran Višnjić.

FULL CIRCLE! \o/ My ADD brain <3s that.

Cross-posted from DW
If you're undecided about going to the protest in your city/area Saturday 1/21, read this.

This is not political, it is personal.

I've been to several protests in my adult life: more than many people; way, way less than some.

I'm pushing 50 and I still go to protests sometimes. This is one of those times.

From past experience, I know when I attend a protest, I will:

1) feel BETTER!
2) SEE that I AM NOT ALONE!
3) take ACTION/avoid passivity (and the hopelessness that goes with it)!
4) feel HOPE!
5) be with a lot of like-minded people!
6) feel COMFORTED by the SHEER NUMBERS of like-minded people!
7) be INSPIRED and AWESTRUCK at the COLLECTIVE ACTION!
8) COUNT AS ONLY ONE AMONG MANY (hundreds, thousands, maybe tens of thousands)!
9) BE HEARD and IN THEIR FACE and MAKE THEM DEAL WITH ME/US!
10) EXERCISE my damn CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS TO ASSEMBLE AND TO FREE SPEECH!

There is nothing like the awesome, hopeful, energized, and (perhaps unexpectedly/oddly) patriotic emotions you feel when you and tons of other like-minded people take over the streets of your city or your capitol.

It's one thing to know abstractly you're not alone; SEEING you are not alone is UPLIFTING!

HEARING hundreds or thousands of people chanting, throwing your voice in with theirs, is GALVANIZING!

It is almost tribal in a way and it is AWESOME! You feel a kind of "social high" from collective activity with other people.

Everyone agrees on the protest issue, so everyone is friendly, supportive, and nice to each other!

You'll see and meet a ton of cool people, maybe make new friends and/or run into old ones!

So if you're undecided, do the thing that will make you feel better: MARCH. PROTEST. Make your voice HEARD.

You will literally feel better, psychologically and physically.

You really will.

And you'll know you aren't alone.

Cross-posted from DW

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